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The Wedding Was Called Off And She Made Lemonade



I’ve been a minister for over 25 years and thankfully I have only seen a wedding called off a few times.

Here is the story of a lady whose $30,000 wedding was called off and how she made lemonade out of it

Sarah Cummins
INDIANAPOLIS — An Indiana woman didn’t want her cancelled $30,000 wedding to go to waste, so she threw a party for the homeless.

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A bus pulled up to the swanky event centre on Saturday that Sarah Cummins had booked for the reception in Carmel, a suburb north of Indianapolis. About a dozen veterans from a local organization were among the guests who dined on bourbon-glazed meatballs, roasted garlic bruschetta and wedding cake.

Cummins told the Indianapolis Star that she and her fiance called off the wedding a week ago. She declined to give a reason, but she said they were left with a nonrefundable contract for the Ritz Charles in Carmel and a plated dinner for 170 guests.

“For me, it was an opportunity to let these people know they deserved to be at a place like this just as much as everyone else does,” Cummins said.

Cummins said she decided that rather than throw away the food she would bring some purpose to the event and contacted area homeless shelters. She cheerfully greeted and welcomed her guests when they arrived Saturday.

Several local businesses and residents donated suits, dresses and other items for the guests to wear.

Charlie Allen, who’s spent three months at a homeless mission, received a donated jacket.

“I didn’t have a sport coat,” he said, tugging gently at the lapels. “I think I look pretty nice in it.”

Like other guests, Allen said he was grateful for the invitation.

“For a lot of us, this is a good time to show us what we can have,” he said. “Or to remind us what we had.”

Three of Cummins’ seven bridesmaids, along with her mother and aunts, came to support her at the event. Guests also dined on chicken breast with artichokes and Chardonnay cream sauce and wedding cake.

Cummins, a 25-year-old Purdue University pharmacy student, said her ex-fiance, Logan Araujo, footed most of the bill for the wedding contract, with Cummins and her parents, along with one of Araujo’s family friends, paying the rest. Cummins said that when she approached Araujo about donating the dinner, he agreed to what he believed was a selfless way to handle the situation.

Cummins said she is not sure yet what she will do with the wedding dress.

“It’s too painful to think about.”
(CTV News)

None of us will make it through life without our fair share of challenges. How we respond is extremely important to our well being at the time and our ability to move on in the future. Obviously, the pain of the breakup will remain with this lady for a long time to come. However she was able to look beyond her pain and say, “Since I’m here how can I help someone?”

No matter what you are going through today find a way to help someone. As you do you will help that person and yourself at the same time.

Time to make lemonade !!!


Stranded On Highway And He Deserved It









The following story happened to a friend of mine, who does not claim he was innocent in all of this:)

Husbands take note! If you are tempted to get out of your car on a highway in a fit of road rage, beware.  Your wife may just get behind the wheel and leave you stranded.


That’s exactly what one unsuspecting husband discovered on his way to work at 7:00 a.m. this past Tuesday.


It began when John, a Toronto lawyer, was enroute to a client meeting in downtown Toronto from his Lakeshore Avenue West condominium complex.  John made the mistake of cutting  his convertible in front of an eastbound moving car.  The driver in the car behind him, miffed because of John’s turn, slammed the heel of his hand on the horn and then gestured wildly at John displaying his early morning agitation at this affront.


As John entered the Gardiner on-ramp he deliberately slowed down to a crawl causing the driver’s anger to boil even more.  The sound of a blaring horn followed John’s painfully slow ascent up the ramp onto the Gardiner.  Once on the Gardiner, John moved into the center lane merging with traffic. The driver behind roared past John and quickly moved in front of him forcefully slamming on the brakes.  John and all the cars behind him screeched to a stop. 


With traffic stopped because of congestion, the driver flung open his door and stomped his way back to John.  John looked up at this well-dressed, handsome gentlemen who began to scold and shout at him telling him that he shouldn’t be driving a standard if he didn’t know how. 

Confused as to why the driver would think John didn’t know how to drive a standard, he looked at the car in front of him.  John was now transfixed at what he saw – movement in the passenger seat – someone appeared to be moving to the beat of a fast-paced song and hands were flailing away.  But wait, no….that wasn’t it.   It was someone climbing over the console into the driver’s seat.  It was the driver’s wife.  


She extended her arm out of the car, grabbed the door and slammed it shut.  In awe, John saw her drive off leaving her husband stranded beside him in the centre lane of the Gardiner. By now the congestion had cleared and cars in all 3 lanes were picking up speed.

John then looked up at the highly agitated gentleman and said “Excuse me sir, but you have a far greater problem on your hands.  Your wife has driven off in your car.  I can leave you here or you can get into my car and we can try to catch up with her.”


Sheepishly the driver skulked over to the passenger side of car and climbed in.  In a few moments, John had caught up with the driver’s wife who had now pulled over to the side of the highway.  As the unidentified driver was about to get out of the car, John turned to him and suggested that, “Tonight might be a good time to take his wife out to dinner!”

How would you use this as a sermon illustration?

  • You never know how you actions will affect another person
  • Escalating a situation will lead to more trouble
  • Don’t tick off your wife early in the morning:)

Have a suggested use?  Let me know.

Thanks to Norma for the article.


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6 Links For Day 6 (February 6/16)





8 Mistakes Most Churches Will Make In 2016 @richbirch

“My conviction is that most churches are getting the following 8 areas wrong. I don’t write this from a place of criticism but as a fellow laborer attempting to help his friends. Our church needs to work on these areas and I think your church could benefit from considering them as well.”

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3. You have someone read verses from Song of Solomon in the message version of the Bible and the verses sound vaguely like a Prince lyric and somehow include the phrase, “let’s make out.” = +3 points

An In-Depth Look at Teachings that Lead to Pseudo-Christianity: Seeker-Friendly Gospel  @theologymix

What’s wrong with the seeker-friendly gospel?

“At a service my wife and I attended, the pastor ended with the question “What do you need from the Holy Spirit today?” Although the congregation reacted enthusiastically, we were alarmed, because this is unbiblical teaching on at least two levels. First, we don’t really know what we lack, so we can’t decide on what we need. Naturally, we will always tend toward the goodies and never toward the discipline. If we (rather than God) can decide on what we need, we will become self-righteous consumers wallowing in our lukewarm bath and we will never follow the ‘way of the cross’ (Mk. 8:34-38), because we will never ask for suffering to become more Christ-like. Second and far more worrying, it puts God in the position of our divine butler or genie in a bottle ready to fulfill all our needs. This is idolatry.”


3 Things To Remember When You’re In A Season of Waiting  @MissMandyHale

“As Winter Storm Jonas rocked much of the country a couple of weeks ago, I found myself trapped inside my apartment for a few days due to the condition of the roads. I should add that I live in middle Tennessee, where any real amount of snow is a rarity—we treat it like an apocalyptic event when it actually occurs. We run to the grocery store, we cancel school (sometimes before a single flake falls), and we seem to forget entirely how to drive. It’s like everything we ever learned about driving shoots right out of our heads and we’re left skidding around like a child’s first bike ride without training wheels.


Down’s Syndrome People Risk ‘extinction’ At The Hands of Science, Fear and Ignorance @timothy_stanley

“…society goes through peaks and troughs of sympathy towards the disabled – and we risk entering a darker age. The National Screening Committee has approved a simple blood test for Down’s Syndrome that in many ways is wonderful news. It should reduce the need for invasive testing procedures, which trigger around 350 cases of miscarriage every year.”

What Can The Church Learn From The Rise of Uber  @cnieuwhof

“What can you learn as a church leader from the astounding rise of Uber, the ride-hail company born in San Francisco just a few years ago? Quite a bit actually.”


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Disclaimer – These posts do not necessarily represent what I believe but are presented to stimulate our thinking.

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Why Is The Wedding Ring On The 4th Finger?

Why Is The Wedding Ring On The 4th Finger?

The longer you are in ministry the more weddings you will be asked to perform.  One of the challenges for anyone who performs the same task over and over is to stay fresh.  So here is a little video about why the ring finger is the 4th finger that you might like to include as part of your wedding ceremonies this year.

Why The Wedding Ring Is On The 4th Finger



What I add to this video is that if one or both of the middle fingers is raised than the ring fingers can separate very easy.   Therefore, it is important for us as spouses to reflect God’s Agape love in our marriages.  A love that is seeking the highest good in the other person, a self-sacrificing love.

P.S.  I did an outdoor wedding a couple of years ago where I gave the groom two choices.  “You may kiss the bride or update your Facebook status.”  He made he right decision and kissed the bride.  Then from the back comes the loud voice of a senior citizen for all to hear.  “What’s Facebook?”  It broke the place up:)

Do you have a story of a wedding you officiated or of a wedding you attended that you would like to tell us about?

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